Well, I'm back on eHarmony again. I really thought I was done with this site for a good long while. But somehow having the worste Valentine's day I have ever had combined with eHarmony's free communication event I got reeled in hook line and sinker! What really sealed the deal though was receiving a communication from a guy on the site but I couldn't see his picture. I didn't want to get too far into communcation without knowing whether or not I was actually attracted to him physically. So I bit the bullet.
The site has changed quite a bit since the last time I was on. A lot of the links are way more userfriendly and some things have been re-titled to make more sense which is good. I can be a site snob sometimes when things are unclear or unfocused. One thing that hasn't changed is the handful of men (probably women as well) who write next to NOTHING on their profile page and post either a tiny picture of themselves or no picture at all. Sometimes I wish I could host a tutorial for these men and show them why women are bypassing their profile page. Then the thought always occurs to me that maybe they are still getting some action! Any response by a woman to their page only reinforces the laziness of not taking the time to fill out a profile page.
However, I am sure that the reason for all the lack luster profile pages is not just laziness. Some people are worried about overselling themselves or coming off as arrogant and narcissistic. This is why I have come up with a list of benefits to writing a good profile page.
1) You'll find out how awesome you are: Writing a good profile page is a great way to having a better understanding of yourself! It is good practice because the more you know yourself the more you will realize what you bring to the table in a relationship...and what you need to improve on.
2) You Won't waist your time: If a person is turned off by your humor in your profile page, chances are they will be turned off by it once you meet up in person. Be appropriate but don't water yourself down just so that people won't be turned off. Let people see who you really are sooner. That way when you do receive a response you know that person will be responding to the real you.
3) You'll get more responses: Online dating is becoming an art. And the ones that have been around the block can tell the people who have just slapped something together versus people who have been thoughtful and reflective about their needs and desires on their pages. When you put effort into your page it communicates that you are willing to put effort into the things that really matter to you...like relationships ;)
Happy profile writing!
ODQ
PS: Narcissistic people don't worry about being narcissistic. If you're worried about it, then you probably have nothing to worry about.
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