To Close or Not to Close the Match

This week I debated for a while about closing communication with a match on eHarmony. I am trying to be "open" I keep reminding myself. Well, I was only mildly attracted to him and his profile answers were not that unique. It was the typical stuff (not bad stuff): loves God, hanging out with friends, values family. He seemed like he was a likable person, but I wasn't sure the chemistry was going to be there, especially because it seemed like he might not be very funny (believe me when I tell you that it pains me how much of a deal breaker this is for me).

This guy is not very quick to respond to communication so I had thought he might have just decided to pass after seeing my answers to his first set of questions. So I was surprised when I found out a couple days ago that he had moved to the next level of communication: Sending "must haves" and "can't stands." This is the level of communication where you send the person a list of things that you must have in a partner and things you cannot stand to have in a partner. Pretty self explanatory right? Of course one of my must haves is sense of humor. Looking back on the situation I realize that I really was looking for him to say something, anything that would give me a legitimate reason to close the match. So when I received his "must haves" and "cant stands" I immediatly latched onto one of his "cant stands" that I had an issue with and closed the match. Judge me if you must but I did it. I didn't stop to think that this guy might not just be going though the motions of eHarmony communication and might actually be genuinly intrested in me. So I was even more surprised when he decided to send me a message after I closed the match (you can send one final farethewell message on eharmony before a match is fully closed). In his message he said that he thought if we met in person I would feel differently, to which I had to respect. And so I decided to take my own ODQ advice: I sent him a message back and agreed to meet with him one on one.

Maybe I made the decision to close the match prematurely. My instincs are usually spot on but I'm open to being wrong. Let you know how it goes :)

Open,
ODQ